Wait. Before going further, ask this to yourself first. You must be thinking what a silly question this is. But loving yourself is like thermodynamics, quantum chemistry, and spectroscopy! How to love yourself?
Loving yourself has its own universe of meaning, ways, and mediums of it. But let’s break into pieces and understand how can you do it wisely and patiently.
While people flaunt their beauty and smile when around others generally feel numb when no one is around.
Reading Motivational Books Helps A Lot
It is not! Reading motivational books ask you to ACT in certain ways. A person who was doing minimal things to love himself/herself, some motivational books ask you do to things that seem to be a burden after some time.
Consult A Psychiatrist
If you have loads of money then better go on a lunch/dinner date! If you don’t feel like going with anyone, get up, suite-up and date yourself!
Get Married or In A Relationship
I’m sure you would agree that if there is a lot of domestic violence happening in a family, it indirectly means that they have issues loving themselves as well.
Talk to People
Talking may or may not help you here. Think like this. When you can’t love yourself, you will always hesitate in talking to others. If you manage to gather guts to talk, you will end up talking negatively or in a way with which people will perceive you as a negative person.
Get a Pet
Getting a pet helps a lot when you’re lonely. But don’t get a pet when you lack self-love (or when you don’t know what it feels like to be loved). Pets want all the attention and care, but people who lack in loving themselves end up taking out frustrations on their pets.
If these are not the ways for self-love then what are they? Because all the points mentioned above are the most trending one in every blog, speech, and report! You might as well think that I’m crazy to make these points fall under myths.
“Talk to yourself like someone you love.” – Brene Brown
“How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you.” – Rupi Kaur
“To fall in love with yourself is the first secret to happiness.” – Robert Morely
“Loving yourself isn’t vanity; it’s sanity.” – Katrina Mayer
“Love yourself unconditionally, just as you love those closest to you despite their faults.” – Les Brown
“If you have the ability to love, love yourself first” – Charles Bukowski
“You might not be where you want to be right now but you will eventually. Things are aligning in your greater good. You’ve just got to have faith that things will manifest at the right time” – Ash Alves
How to Love Yourself: Some of the Many Ways
Every person is unique and highly dynamic from one another. While it’s nearly impossible to pin down the ways to love yourself taking entire mankind into consideration, here are some ways that you can apply in your life and feel the difference.
The best thing about them is that these ways not only teach you how to love yourself, but they also teach you how to attain mental peace and how to adjust yourself during the times when you found almost impossible to maintain your chill and patience.
There is a BIG difference between reading motivational books and reading. While reading motivational books asks you to act (or make you feel that it’s nearly impossible to maintain such a rigid and systematic lifestyle), reading makes you think.
Reading allows you to take a deep dive into your own psyche and imagination so that you can know yourself better book after book.
Self-discovery and self-love begin with meditating. It’s one of the most boring things to do but at the same time one of the most productive things you can do with yourself, to yourself and by yourself.
Meditating allows you to maintain your calm and at the same time, you start discovering yourself with closed eyes. I can go on talking about meditation but I would refrain from doing so.
Meditation is magic which you have to feel by yourself.
Go for a Solo Travel
This might sound crazy to others and for you (for the first time) when you tell that you’re going for solo travel. Usually, trips and tours are fun and memorable with family and friends but having a solo trip once a year is the most rejuvenating gift you can give to yourself.
You have all the “me-time” while you are traveling. You not only tend to discover new places all by yourself but you discover yourself a lot.
Learn to Say NO to Others
Sometimes people manipulate or emotionally blackmail. Sometimes we tend to do things without our concern, we do somethings because they are coming from our loved ones.
Well, it’s not necessary to always do things. Sometimes saying no is beneficial. You’re not born to abide by your loved ones. Neither you’re born to do everything someone asks you to do.
“When I loved myself enough, I began leaving whatever wasn’t healthy. This meant people, jobs, my own beliefs, and habits – anything that kept me small. My judgment called it disloyal. Now I see it as self-loving” – Kim McMillen
No, not novels or something complex. Maintain a small journal where you write down all the small-small things that happened with you, sad and happy ones.
Where you write about your aspirations, dreams, desires and likewise. This way you start discovering yourself in the best possible way. Writing definitely makes you a calm and serene person.
Make a List of Your Accomplishments
We usually forget to appreciate ourselves for small-small things because life today is so much tensed and fast that we ignore and oversee such things.
But it’s very important to keep appreciating yourself for all the big-small acts you’ve done lately. You don’t need anyone to do that. Since you yourself have accomplished these things, first seek appreciation from your soul and then from anyone else.
“In order to love who you are, you cannot hate the experiences that shaped you” – Andrea Dykstra
So, these were some easiest and simple ways through which you can start loving yourself. These ways are easiest to apply in your life as they don’t ask you to do anything out of your comfort zone. They just require you to have a proper mindset.
Self-loving is not a very huge task to do, but when you start doing it, you can achieve all the big things that once seemed almost impossible to achieve.